When Life Gives you Lemons- Anxiety and Resilience


So before I begin I must apologise for the radio silence these past few months. Aside from the usual issues of life and work getting in the way, I had to take a time out due to anxiety issues.

I have struggled with anxiety for just about a year now and I have so far managed to cope without the use of medication. It is a tough road and there are still bumps in the road every now and then, some worse than others. It does mean however that when it hits bad I struggle to maintain my usual routines and pace, having to take time out to concentrate on getting back on track.

This is what has prompted me to write this post as  mental health is equally important as physical and emotional health and with everything so intrinsically linked I feel it is important to address.

When it comes to overcoming my ‘blips’ with the anxiety, time and again it involves allowing myself to go through the necessary stages before taking control and picking myself up again.

Anyone struggling with any form of mental illness will understand that everyone has their own ways of overcoming their issues and there no miracle cure or process to follow. Its as personal to the individual as any other however there are steps i found that really help with managing my own recovery.

Resilience and Anxiety

  1. Give yourself permission to feel.
    Allow yourself to feel your emotions and thoughts. Accept and acknowledge them.
    Allow yourself this time to understand where the triggers lie.
    Believe it or not, the simple act of giving yourself permission feels like the first step towards controlling your illness and not letting it control you.
  2. Recognise the triggers.
    Take control of each trigger, one at a time. Identify what it is about each trigger that causes the anxiety.
  3. Take control.
    Take control of your triggers and formulate steps that you can take to minimise the effects they have over you. Whether it means taking a time out, reminding yourself of its place in the bigger place or simply making the decision not to care. Again, having the chance to feel that you are in control of your situation helps you control your anxiety.
  4. Guidelines not goalposts.
    See your steps as guidelines not goalposts. They are flexible and changeable, not concrete pillars for you to aim between.
    Ensure you re-evaluate and change your guidelines depending on what works and what doesn’t. Anxiety is changeable therefore so too should your steps.
  5. Accept Support
    Do not be afraid to seek support from loved ones or your doctor. You are in control and accepting support is simply another way of ensuring you retain control.
    Do not be afraid to go to your doctor if you feel you need extra support.


I hope this proves useful in some way to anyone who is struggling with the same issues i am.

I would like to make the point that i am not an expert and this is simply what i have found helps me with my process. I would very much welcome any comments with further suggestions on how to deal with anxiety.

Begin The Day the Right Way


I have recently discovered that beginning your day in the right way can have a marked improvement on how the rest of the day goes and how you react and respond to obstacles. I am aware that I am more than a little late to the party on this one however after looking online for suggestions on how best to start your day, I have realised just how wrong I was doing things.

Without going into too much detail, for the past few months I have struggled with depression and anxiety and it wasn’t until I had a week off work that I realised how detrimental my morning routine actually was for my mental well being, especially when I was feeling so low.
The below steps are what helped me get over my depression and anxiety issues. It didn’t all happen in a week however it was the starting point and by continuing to make sure I did as many of these things as possible every morning I began to feel happier in myself.


6 Steps To a Happier You
These six steps helped me sort my head and my issues out and because I was doing them for me and no one else, it allowed me to feel like I had gained a sense of self back, something I felt I had lost in amongst all my daily responsibilities and routines.

There are of course other things you can do to promote inner well being such as getting fresh air, smiling, drinking lots of water and eating healthily. However, with so much around these days concerning healthy living, these should already be in peoples peripheral and pretty much a no-brainer!

I would just like to point out that these steps helped me get over my depression and anxiety issues however they are not a cure all solution. There was a  point I was struggling and I did consult with my doctor.
If you are struggling, please don’t hesitate to seek help. Strength does come from within however it is the support from people around us that keeps us strong.


Health Kick: H2O Fruit Infusions

Fruit Infusions

So with my family holiday to Malta fast approaching and being very aware that I have yet to get on the exercise bike even half as much as I told myself I would, I have been scouting the world of Pinterest to find easy solutions to aid in a bit of healthy weight loss that I can fit around work.

It’s not rocket science to figure out that drinking more water throughout your day will help flush toxins from your body, re-hydrate dry and tired skin, and fill you up so you don’t need feel the need to eat as much.
My issue is that while I like water, I don’t like it enough to look forward to it like I would a cup of tea and have to force myself to chose water over tea at work.

After browsing Pinterest I came to realise just how many delicious veggie / fruity water infusions there are out there and thought to myself that I really must share some of these ideas.

I have one of those fruit infuser water bottles and for the past two weeks I have been drinking green tea and lime infused water at work which I prepare the night before and let infuse in the fridge overnight.
I am currently getting through about 4 pints of it at work and I do feel healthier- although my trips to the ladies has increased somewhat, but I am told that will eventually subside!

I can honestly say I really can’t get enough of my green tea and lime drink at the moment and this has helped in motivating me to drink it daily. Unfortunately I am aware that I am only human and eventually I will tire of this combination and decide to change things up.

Sharing is Caring

Figuring that I am probably not the only one that bores of plain ole’ water, I thought I would share some websites I found that provide some interesting ideas for fruit infused water which I fully intend to try once my green tea and lime gets ‘so last week’.

I found a fantastic page on 54Health.com where they have compiled and listed 50 fruit infused water suggestions from numerous sources on the internet. They also provide a small paragraph on each detailing the benefits of the components to each drink allowing you to chose the infusion that will benefit you the most depending on what you’re looking for.

Several other sites I have found listing some lovely suggestions of fruit infused water are SheUncovered.com, cloudywithachanceofwine.com, and PioneerSettler.com

Fruit Infusion for the Lazy Individual (like me!)

A neat infusion I have recently discovered and literally bought the ingredients for this morning (apparently we had no honey!) is the Lazy person’s weight loss infusion.

Not gripped yet? How about if I tell you that it will help you lose weight while you sleep? Thought that would interest you. As I’ve said I haven’t tried this yet however I do plan to tonight so will keep you posted about whether or not it does what it says on the tin, but in the meantime check it out at tidbitsfrommarcus.wordpress.com and let me know how you get on if you give it a go!



Fresh & Fruity Grapefruit & Kiwi Moisturiser

Fresh & Fruity

For heavenly silky smooth skin try this whipped moisturiser. A little goes a long way and provides insanely gentle soft skin you won’t be able to resist stroking.

Equal quantities of:
Coconut Oil
Shea Butter

Grapefruit & Kiwi Essential Oil

Jar x1
Whisk x1
Microwave proof bowl x1

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Gently melt the Coconut Oil and Shea Butter, mixing periodically. Once it is fully melted add the Grapefruit and Kiwi Essential Oil- as much or as little as you like depending on your preference.

Put in the fridge to chill and once the colour of the mixture turns a white / cream get the whisk on it and  whisk until it thickens, stiffens and the whisk leaves a trail. Transfer to your jar and enjoy silky soft skin!

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Quick Crafts: Orange & Cinnamon Lip Balm

Orange & Cinnamon Lip Balm

So you have a spare 10 minutes? Make some Orange & Cinnamon Lip Balm for a fruity luscious silky soft pout.


Equal Measures of:
Coconut Oil
Shea Butter

3 drops of Cinnamon & Orange Essential Oils
Orange Mica Powder



Melt the Coconut Oil and Shea Butter. Add as many or as few crops of the essential oils, depending on the strength of the fragrance you want.

Add the Orange mica powder to colour .

Pour into a lip balm container and leave in a cool place to harden and set.

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Luxury Grapefruit & Kiwi Soap


A creamy and fruity soap that really does leave your skin feeling luxuriously silky smooth with an exotically fruity scent.



Equal parts of:
Coconut Oil
Shea Butter
Goats Milk Soap Base

Grapefruit & Kiwi Essential Oil
Green Mica Colouring Powder

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Put the Coconut Oil, Shea Butter and Goats Milk Soap Base into a microwave proof dish and gently melt it.

Once it is melted add the Grapefruit and Kiwi Essential Oil- as much or as little as you want depending on how subtle a scent you want. I put in about 10 drops as I like my soaps to have a strong fragrance if they’re fruity- and mix.
Finally add your mica powder and colour it to your preference.

Once mixed in, pour into your mould and leave to set.

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